1 /5 Kaili Faber: Do. Not. Attend. When someone has to lie to leave a church, that should be your first sign. ( I felt the only way I could leave was to lie and say that God "called me" to go home to save my parents) I always thought it was Carbondale that was suffocating me while attending SIU. It in fact, was not. It was Vine. Demanding I attend Sundays, small group, and serve on multiple teams. They did not give me a choice in the small group I attended once my group got to big. Since I was a girl, I didnt get to lead others. I was only allowed to follow. My every move was watched, questioned, and asked to pray about. I was made to feel guilty about small things. College students, hear me when I say this: STAY. AWAY. I welcome the church to reach out to me and discuss further, however I dont think they will.